“Actually, when bad things happen to us, we tend to have three unfortunate reactions: self-criticism, self-isolation, and self-absorption. Neff’s three components of self-compassion direct us exactly in the opposite direction: self-kindness, recognizing the common humanity in our experience, and a balanced approach to negative emotions.”
There is no doubt there are various times in our lives when we experience challenge and hardships. During these times, we can often make our situation more difficult by relating to ourselves in harsh and insensitive ways, adding to our discomfort.
The practice of Mindful Self-Compassion can teach us a new, more effective way of being with ourselves during times of great stress and struggle, creating opportunities for a happier and more fulfilling life.
Like compassion for others, Mindful Self-Compassion has 3 components:
- Mindfulness– Being aware of what’s happening, while it is happening without judgement and with acceptance. In MSC we learn to become more aware of the moments in which we are suffering, offering ourselves opportunities for new ways of relating to our difficulties.
- Common Humanity- Being aware that our suffering, including perceived failings, are part of the human experience. This allows us to feel less isolated and see ourselves and others, as human.
- Self KIndness- When suffering is occurring, treating ourselves with kindness, care and concern, just as we would a close friend who is suffering. This allows us an opportunity to comfort ourselves when we need it most.
How self- Compassion is linked to well being:
Increase in: life satisfaction, social connectedness, wisdom, authenticity, resilience, coping, personal growth, self-efficacy, curiosity, happiness and optimism.
Decrease in: anxiety, depression, stress, rumination, thought suppression, perfectionism, fear of failure, body shame, PTSD symptoms.
Self Compassion classes are offered in 8 week format with a half day retreat.
Please contact me for more information on upcoming MSC classes.